Everyone has it's own phases in a life. There is a growth phase from
infant to toddler, then be children, juvenile and entering adulthood. I believe
in every phase, we continue to learn, to see and imitate. Also transform
ourselves. Because basicly, human was a dynamic. Fickle. In each phase towards
adulthood, for me it's the most difficult thing. Up and down. We struggled to
find out who, what and how ourselves.
Who we really are?
What would we go?
How should we behave for living?
For answering each questions above, many of us give up on the
situation. Unable to resist the rigors and hold the inner flaming. When we give
up, we really lost its way. Lose the spirit, feel useless, incapable,
unnoticed, ignored, different from the others, full of doubt and fear, loss of
confidence even in yourself. Feeling unsafe. Loss of confidence and slowly harm
the mental and physical. Not only trouble in ourselves, social relations became
disturbed.
How can a person receive their social circumstances when couldn't
accept himself?
Attitude to others depend on the sense of his security and how much
they can receive themselves. In other words, when stronger and can accept
himself, will be better and positive attitude to others. When a secure person's
sense get stronger will be more 'relaxed' attitude to others. And that means,
the cause of insecure is in self-acceptance was lacked. In layman's language,
unconfident.
The root problem of psychological and also social relationships is
insecurity of themselves. Have you or are experiencing an attack of insecurity
in yourself?
So, is there any solution?
Personally I was in fact unable to accept myself completely. I'm still
learning. Up and down. Struggle alone, to be a strong person in mentally. And
be positive of course. There is no other way to cure it is to build confidence
in yourself. Building a secure sense of self. A strong sense of security and
safety inside will make us more focus, more comfortable, quieter, more relaxed
and more peaceful. And it certainly would make attitude to others becomes more
positive.